Basic Proposition: Belonging and comfort are gained by attending to and merging with others and by dispersing energy into substitute objects.

Habitual Focus of Attention: The inessential and the agenda of others.

What "Mediators" tell us about themselves:

• They see all sides to every issue as peacemakers and harmonizers;

• They avoid conflict and want the comfortale solution;

• They have difficulty saying "no";

• They are ambivalent about their own needs and wants;

• They "go along to get along";

"Who am I again....?"